There are enough books and resources out there to guide you how to survive the end of the world—in case there are some natural disasters, a zombie apocalypse or a nuclear attack. However, there aren’t that many books on how to survive the end of the world—when it’s all in your head.
Yes, folks, here we finally have a book that will take you right into the mind of an anxious driven man, the pain and anguish he goes through but ultimately how he eventually conquers his mind to overcome this mental trauma.
We all have faced anxieties on some level—whether it’s public speaking, getting ready for marriage, anticipating health test results or waiting for a child to be born – and we all find different ways to cope with our anxieities. However, for many of us, we have a higher degree of anxiety, which leads to a panic-like situation and we feel numbed and frozen in a particular situation.
For Aaron Gillies, he was diagnosed with severe anxiety, and while he acknowledges that anxiety is a very individualistic experience, together we can all fight it out. Aaron was diagnosed with depression and took him about 4 years to finally come to terms with his childhood issues in therapy. His depression led on to him having severe panic attacks- and for him, his panic attack could range from dropping a mug in the kitchen to just standing at a bus stop waiting for the bus!
Spread over 13 remaining chapters, Aaron tackles his experiences in anxiety in all spheres of his life: Getting up in the morning, Commuting, Work, Socializing, Relationships, the Internet, Responsibilities, Relaxation, and Recovery, among others. There is also a very important chapter on how to handle extreme situations such as self-harm and suicide.
The book is not a memoir (something I am happy about) but interspersed through his experiences, he shares various tips and ideas on how to tackle anxieties in the above-mentioned list of various parts of your life. His writing style is rather frank, open, sarcastic and humorous (British humor to be honest) and in all honesty, I had a great time reading the book.
If you know of someone who suffers from anxiety, or you yourself suffer from anxiety attacks, please get this book and do yourself a favor. There is a solution. There is way out. We can all fight this out and recover.
I’ll break down some of the main ideas from each sphere of life– I cannot write in details because you will be bored, hence just the main gist.
A. Morning Routine
Tips on getting a good night’s sleep
Avoid caffeine after midday; Avoid energy drinks after 4pm; Give your brain a rest (don’t use the phone in the bed!); try a routine
Tips to avoid Agoraphobic Anxiety
Shower; get dressed; Invite a friend round; Skype; Plot your routes outside.
How to Leave Your House
Visualization; Set Goals; Rewards
Tips for Anxious Traveller
Proper Preparation- know where you are going, and get there early.
Distractions- pack anything that will help you take your mind to a different place.
Treatlets- pack little things to help you with anxiety like sweets.
Exercises- breathing exercises will help.
How to make Work more Bearable
Have someone you can talk to
Lay off the caffeine
Get out of the office (take a break from workspace!)
Drink plenty of water
Kill everyone in your office
Tips for handling social anxiety
Identify your comfort zones
The only person demanding more from you is you
Excuse yourself when you need to
Look after yourself, you dick!
Practice makes perfect
How to get self-confidence back
Give yourself a break!
Only contribute to conversations when you want to
Don’t do anything you don’t want to
How to talk to a parter/ friend about your anxiety
Start at the very begunning, a very good place to start
Talk about recovery and getting help from your partner/ friend
F. The Internet
Spending time online
Talk- converse, be supportive. Don’t want to talk, read instead
Don’t read the comments- Avoid!
Like your friends’ selfies
Don’t be a dick!
Look after yourself
Check your balance regularly
Save money but treat yourself from time to time
Take someone you trust with you as plus one
Know your exits
If youa re asked to do a speech and don’t want to do a speech, don’t do it
Don’t worry about how everyone else is doing, worry about how you are doing
Train Your Brain