Who Says You Can’t? You Do

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I was highly recommended to read this one. It’s literally a self-help book that asks the readers to stop, pause, and reflect on what they have just read. I usually don’t do that when I am reading self-help books- I am usually picking what works for me and discarding what doesn’t work for me. So for me, this book was a hit and miss. That’s not to say that there is enough wisdom in this book that will speak to you, whatever phase of your life you are in.

Daniel Chidiac is a writer based in Melbourne, Australia, and at the beginning of the book, he shares a lot of his personal story: namely getting into bad habits like drinking excessively and indulging in drugs, and how at the age of 19, he was traveling all over Europe for his business trips. However, there came a point in his life where he questioned: “what is all of this? What does it all mean? What am I doing here?” He knew he was lost, and he sought God for guidance, and many times felt God’s absence in his life. This is where, as he Daniel Chidiac says, his life really began.

He takes the readers through 7-Steps which seeks to transform the lives. They are:

Step 1- Self Discovery- The Knowledge to Empower Your Life Forever

Chidiac asks the readers to question their attitudes, beliefs, and past actions. A simple reframing of the question, of which he lists in the book, can help you break away from your limiting beliefs. There are some powerful exercises that the author asks us to write down in the book, which serves as a reminder to us. As he says, “the challenge isn’t knowing who you are as a  person, it’s having the courage to act like the person you are.”

  • Stepping out of our comfort zone
  • Being in the State of Appreciation
  • What you believe, you create
  • Breaking old habits

Step2- Energy- The Fundamental Force

“It’s not physical tiredness that makes us need as much as rest as we think, but our mental state that needs more stimulation.”

Chidiac stresses on how energy, whether it’s negative or positive, can affect us in all ways possible. So it’s important to Focus and Find the energy that is productive for you.

Step 3- The System of Achievement

  • Create a purpose vision for your self
  • Complaining only creates your own disaster
  • Being persistent in the face of hurdles and obstacles
  • Crisis: “When you decide to see things for what they really are, not worse than they are, you will always find another avenue for growth.”
  • Verbal Action: “The words we commit to shape and condition who we are just as much as our thoughts and physical actions.”
  • Fear: “Don’t resist fear, embrace it!”
  • Success: “Never let it be the notion of success that enhances the quality of your life; rather let is be the qualities of your life that enhances success.”

Step 4- Steer Your Relationships

There are some rather neat tips to help take your rocky relationships towards smooth sailing.

  • “A life partner is not about battling each other, but overcoming life’s challenges together.”
  • “When you attempt to control someone else’s life, it only reflects the lack of control you have over your own.”

Step 5- Create a Healthy Physical Existence

An extremely useful chapter, one which helped me kick start my own fitness regime in this period of lockdown. There are loads of cool tips on how to get started, and then how to stick with the regime.

  • “Losing weight is an activity that drives us crazy; striving to be healthy and fit is a lifestyle that lasts forever.”

Step 6- Awaken Your Mind, Unchain Your Heart

Chidiac shares a spiritual journey he encountered on his trip to Thailand. Here he stresses the art of mindfulness, and how we can help our future generation master their minds to live a purposeful life. I loved what Chidiac says about destiny: our destiny is a choice we make.

“Destiny is no matter of chance.

It is a matter of choice: It is not a thing to be waited for,

it a thing to be achieved.” 

-William Jennings Bryan

Step 7- Find Fulfillment: A Real Success

A short chapter on how to create and keep that vision strong towards achieving happiness.

“A happy person is not a person

in a certain set of circumstances, but rather

a person with a certain set of attitudes.”

 – Hugh Downs

Conclusion

In short, Daniel Chidiac is helping us all understand how we change our lives by taking responsibility for our feelings and actions, creating a strong vision for the future, and making the right kind of life-changing decisions to achieve a life of happiness and fulfillment. He knows the 7-Steps works because he himself has been through it and tested the wisdom. You may not go through all the 7-Steps and can choose and pick what works for you. Personally speaking, I have picked up a lot from his second and fifth steps.

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